Week 3: Stop Being Such A "Control Freak"?

This one's kind of a rambling, so bear(?)bare(?) with me. Take what you will from it:

I know I like to pretend like I have some sort of control in my life. Muahaha. So funny. I have my moments, MOM-ents. I find ways to make myself believe I am controlling a situation. I shout orders, give chores or tasks to make me feel like I have controlled something. I have a baby so I have no control of my life. You can always pretend that you do. You can look at all the Instagram superstars who are amazing, yes, and run businesses while juggling what appears to be (could very well be) the best relationships with the loved ones, selves, and hobbies/jobs/careers, etc. How do they have such control over their life? A big problem that's only going to be a downer is viewing these seemingly perfect lives and comparing ours and wondering why our s#!*s so out of control and not put together so perfectly like an Instagram or Facebook sensation. Having this mental image of what our brain perceives as a perfect life can compromise the happiness we feel in our own. Control is an illusion. What are you losing control of? Who you are? Who are you? This image you have of who you are supposed to be? Maybe you already are who you're supposed to be.

Most angry and mean people are those that feel like they've lost their ability to control their life. I mean who doesn't get upset when something doesn't go "their way"? Who wants to live this way?Well, instead of getting upset we can just accept it, recognize it as it is and move forward. Maybe it was meant to be. Maybe there is something to be learned from it. Pushing through a difficult time makes you, you! The way you handle situations can teach you a lot about yourself.

Is letting go and just BEing, in a sense a state of trying to be in control too? If I tell myself to stop being so controlling, am I not in turn also controlling mySELF to be a certain way? Ok lets not get all phylosophical. So how does one just stop controlling by not controlling. Take a deep breath. Be aware that all that ever is, is; so let it be just as it is. Be open to whatever may come. If you've lost something, maybe it's life's way of making space for some new. If you've made a mistake, learn from it so that it is no longer a mistake, it's a lesson.

“Accept - then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.” ― Eckhart Tolle